Sometimes you know something isn’t working very well, but being in the situation means you can’t easily see the solution.
We’ve known for a long time that our evenings after S got home from work weren’t satisfying either of us: I was tired and ready for some quiet and he had been sitting in the office all day and wanted to romp with the children. Since his getting home from work isn’t always consistent we also had the problem of the children being hungry and crabby if he was later than usual.
His brother came to visit about a month ago and



